Learn Self-Control In Youth, Lifetime Of Success

October 22, 2022,

They are to be admired.

Their jobs can be the most challenging in the world.

College football coaches must win or else.

When they are not winning, and they have to speak at a press conference following a painful loss, what greatly impresses us is their ability to apply self-control in speech.

They say the right things because they have to.

We’ll fight on as a team.

We’ll learn from our mistakes.

So much of the season is still in front of us.

And so it goes.

Do we believe them? Not all of the time but, you never know. Things could turn around.

In your life, especially as a young person, you need to learn self-control.

Don’t always say what you really think, especially if it is negative and you post it online. There will be a record of that forever. The person you are now, most likely will not be the person you are ten years from now.

Why have something negative follow you?

Whatever you do, don’t engage in violence.

The prisons are full of once normal, average people, who for a moment, lost self-control and then, their lives are ruined forever.

Let’s turn off at this exit.

Time to talk about money.

Having money is about making money. Making money is often about working hard. Smart is great, but most likely you will always need to work hard.

Then comes the most important part.

After you make money, you need to learn how to save it.

We’re going to repeat that.

Learn the techniques of saving money. There is a method to it. There is a science. One of the largest aspects of it is self-control.

Time to turn to an expert of the subject.

How to Budget & Manage Your Money: Financial Planning Book for Beginners. How to Save Money Faster, Pay Off Debt and Control Your Finances (Smart Personal Money Management Series) Paperback – May 4, 2020

By Rachel Mercer (Author)

“Are you having a hard time paying your bills and saving your money?

Do you want to get out of the Paycheck to Paycheck cycle and have more money left in your account at the end of each month?

Do you want to learn how to manage your money better?

Ready to finally take control your finances but don’t know where to begin?

Then this book is for you.

Many Americans today struggle with saving money and addressing increasing debt. Now more than ever, it is important for people of all ages to understand the importance of frugality and how their actions today will affect their futures.

In this book, you will be introduced to a wealth of tips, tricks, and strategies for better financial management, no matter your current age, financial situations, past, or future goals.

In this simple personal budgeting book, you will learn how to make a realistic budget that actually works and you can stick to, to reach your financial goals faster and to take control of your finances.

This book is different in that, instead of just throwing you some tips, you will begin at a starting point that many people try to skip. And that is, to assess Where you are Right now.

The road to wealth is paved with goals, without financial goals, you have no direction, so it’s easy to spend money on things you’ll regret later. But if you’re saving for a house, your son’s college education, or a new car, your goal will keep you focused.

Financial success is more about mastering the mental game of money than about understanding numbers. The math is simple: it’s controlling your habits and emotions that’s hard.”

Very true.

It is all about the habits you develop. Self-control in savings is a great habit.

We have a visiting writer with some well thought out suggestions on how to exercise self-control.

Mr. Pran Rangan is a physician with an expertise in writing articles on health related topics.

Four Effective Ways to Improve Self Control

By Dr. Pran Rangan

Self-control is the ability to subdue our impulses in order to achieve longer-term goals rather than responding to immediate impulses. Instead we plan, evaluate and often avoid doing things we’ll regret later. The ability to exert self-control is typically called willpower, which allows us to direct our attention toward goals. And, therefore, it underlies all kinds of achievement.

The Marshmallow Experiment –

A psychologist named Walter Mischel, in a psychology experiment in 1970, placed a treat in front of children and offered them a choice – they could either enjoy a treat of marshmallow now, or wait a brief period of time in order to get two snacks. The experimenter then left the room.

He found on coming into the room after some time that many of the kids immediately ate the marshmallow, but a portion of the kids were able to put off the urge to enjoy the treat now and wait for the reward of getting two delicious goodies later on.

Mischel discovered later that the children, who had waited for the treat, performed better academically than kids, who ate the treat right away. Those, who delayed their gratification, also displayed fewer behavioral problems and later had much higher SAT scores.

In follow-up experiments, Mischel found that using a number of distraction techniques helped children delay gratification more effectively. Such techniques included singing songs, thinking about something else, or covering their eyes.

The children in Mischel’s study had the promise of a secondary reward for waiting just a short period of time. But, on the contrary, everyday scenarios don’t always come with this guarantee and, therefore, it becomes quite difficult to delay gratification.

Unpredictability of future rewards –

The uncertainty about future rewards makes delaying immediate gratification a real challenge. And, that is why, many think why not have immediately which is there in front of us. May be, it may not be there later!

Our everyday life is replete with such examples. If on a diet, many will lose their self-control and give in to temptation to enjoy a delicious dish at a party. They will argue with themselves that even after following a diet plan, they are facing difficulty in losing weight. So why not enjoy the treat! They forget at that time that a weight loss plan requires real self-control.

Developing self-control –

We can look at self-control as a muscle, and just like our physical muscles, we can strengthen it by training. Below are some proven ways to do so –

Perform self-affirmation – According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, self-affirmation can even help one to have more self-control when one is running out. Every time you tell yourself “I can’t,” you’re creating a feedback, which is a reminder of your limitations. This terminology indicates that you’re forcing yourself to do something you don’t want to do. So, by creating positive affirmations like “I can do it”, you will be able to retrain your responses to situations that require self-control. With many repetitions of such affirmations, you will be able to develop good self-control.

Delay immediate gratification – Delaying immediate gratification is one potent way to develop self-control. Delaying gratification involves the ability to wait to get what one wants. Though it is often quite difficult, it is most important for developing self-control. Choosing a long-term reward over immediate gratification poses a major challenge in many areas of life. One can employ diversionary tactics like thinking about something else, or simply walking out of the sight of tempting object or just reminding yourself that delaying will yield more benefits. It actually has to be done repeatedly before you can strengthen your will-power.

Do meditations regularly – Experts agree across the board that a regular practice of meditation provides many benefits of overall mental and physical well-being to the practitioner. It helps lower the levels of emotional reactivity and impulsivity as it gives a latency to the practitioner before reacting. The latency keeps increasing as the practitioner advances in the practice of meditation. It is this latency period that gives a person enough time to think before reacting, which, in its place, comes as proactive response. So, instead of giving in to the temptation of immediate gratification, you will have some time to change your mind. And it doesn’t take a lifetime of practice but, on the contrary, behavioral changes to counteract reactivity have been observed after eight weeks of brief daily meditation training.

Learn to manage stress – High levels of stress entice us to surrender to temptations, forcing us to make decisions based on short-tem outcomes, because the process of decision making requires energy, and we are low on energy level under high stress. By being relaxed, we will be able to make sound decisions with far reaching positive effects. Our self-control gives in, when we are under any kind of high stress, especially if that involves emotions. Thus, we can conclude that if we learn to manage our stress well, we will have better self-control.

Conclusion –

The ability to subdue our impulsivity underlies all kinds of successful achievements. It is quite tempting for us to indulge in instant gratification of our desires, albeit our understanding that it is not beneficial to us, whereas delaying gratification will be beneficial. The classic Marshmallow Experiment testifies to this effect. Our ability to regulate impulsivity and reactivity to life events contributes to lend strength to our self-control. We should help our children to learn and develop self-control as it is easy to create behavioral patterns when their young minds are more suggestible. Nevertheless, self-control can be fortified at any age with sincere efforts and it is worth making efforts.

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