Truly Falling In Love, A Rare Experience, Even In The Movies

March 27, 2023,

Attraction is one thing. Having a good time is another.

Meeting people and thinking that you have fallen in love can happen quite often.

Actually falling in love is something very different. For those of us who have experienced it, that experience is rare. More important, it may never come again.

The legendary soul singer Freddie Scott, made us feel it in our soul.

To the depths of it.

Here are the lyrics to “Hey Girl”

Hey, Girl! I want you to know,
I’m gonna miss you so much if you go.
And, Hey, Girl! I tell you no lie,
Something deep inside of me’s going to die,
if you say so long, if this is goodbye. Oh!

Hey, Girl! This can’t be true,
How am I supposed to exist without you?
And, Hey, Girl! Now don’t put me on,
What’s gonna happen to me when you’re gone.
How will I live. How can I go on.
How can I go on? Hey, Girl!”

Listen and sigh, while it lasts: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c3mvJE-SUnc

Are you in love?

Yes, right now?

If you are and the other person is truly in love with you, no matter the circumstances, try and hold on to it with appreciation.

Whatever you do, don’t fritter it away for a moment of pleasure by cheating.

You may never get it again.

Ever.

Here is a reprint from Femcompetitor Magazine (femcompetitor.com) of a classic film that speaks to this magical feeling that you never want to lose.

A SUMMER STORY

If watching this film doesn’t make your eyes go moist, we don’t know what will.

A Summer Story is a British drama film released in 1988. Directed by Piers Haggard, with a script written by Penelope Mortimer. It stars James Wilby, Imogen Stubbs, and Susannah York.

Here is the storyline.

In 1904, a young gentleman visiting a rural area has an intense love affair with a village girl. Eighteen years later, he is passing that way again.

In the summer of 1904 Frank Ashton, an educated young man from London, is on a walking holiday in Devon with a friend. When he falls and twists his ankle, Ashton is helped at a nearby farmhouse and stays there for a few days to recover, while his friend goes on.

Ashton quickly falls for the village girl who looks after him, Megan David, and she falls deeply in love with him.

Ashton and Megan spend a night together, and after that he takes the train to a seaside town to cash a check at a bank, promising to return the next morning and whisk Megan away with him and marry her.

She waits for him at the agreed upon spot on the hill but he never shows.

Life got in the way. Possibly fate.

Or do you make your own fate?

In terms of rejection, here was our take on it.

Ashton had a very important decision to make that took courage.

Despite his pedigree or that he was an amateur boxing champion in elite British society, the quality that he seemed to lack most, among integrity and honor was courage.

We first see this as Ashton has been staying at the farmhouse as a guest far longer than he should. The ankle injury is long healed up so obviously he is not staying there for that reason.

He’s staying because he has fallen in love with Megan.

Megan, who was previously expected to marry manly Joe, a sturdy farm hand who stinks of pig booty, belches and farts, is clearly in love with Megan as well.

Her betrothed Joe is right out of an Irish Spring soap commercial with one minor variation.

The box remains unopened. Permanently.

Okay we apologize for embellishing. He doesn’t belch or fart in front of us (probably in front of Megan) but Megan does remind him that he stinks and pushes his face away.

Twice.

One evening they are all sitting in the eating room when Joe confronts Megan about her now distancing behavior in front of the group.

The gig is up and everyone knows that Mr. Aston and Megan have a thing for one another in a very bad way.

At this point Mr. Ashton could politely take a stand and say that he thinks its Megan’s decision to make and unfortunately these things happen but he has fallen for her and plans to marry her.

Ashton does no such thing and instead leaves Megan to fend for herself as he excuses himself.

That is a very bad sign.

Thus in terms of that important date where they are to meet up and have him take Megan away to his aristocratic world and be a person with backbone knowing that he will face severe ridicule and possible loss of business as an attorney for having this peasant girl as his wife.

Once he reaches a seaside resort town to obtain more money to take Megan with him, he now is engulfed in his aristocratic world and all that goes with it.

He meets people of his class distinction and begins to rethink things.

He never shows up to meet Megan.

This is not a movie review. We already know the film is exceptional.

The key here is about handling rejection.

If you are Megan, how do you handle it?

She doesn’t handle it well and is devastated and emotionally destroyed.

The question is not how should Megan handle it? We are not Megan and we could theorize how we would respond all we want but that is irrelevant since we are not her.

We simply want to learn from Megan’s response.

Having been stood up, undaunted Megan travels miles into town to look for him. What is so telling as Megan is walking among the aristocrats is how she truly does stands out among them as from a very different class.

Ashton has one more chance to be with Megan as he sees her walking up a hill and as she turns back, she thinks that she sees him but it is not to be because Ashton hides behind a building.

Demoralized and defeated, the beautiful fresh faced young girl returns to the farm.

She was so overwhelmed with grief that she passes away in child birth with Ashton’s baby.

Give Imogen Stubbs massive credit.

She plays Megan as the sweet, pure hearted country girl to perfection.

You could feel her pain of rejection in the depths of your heart.

While it lasts, the movie can be seen on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=okCXu5XcYcQ

Well, we hope that you feel the point.