Your Life As A Movie, Based Upon Real Life Behavior, Are You the Heroine?

August 23, 2023,

We cross paths daily with others.

We see them.

But do we really see them?

Do we understand them?

This behavior is timeless.

So are the thoughts of William Shakespeare. You might remember this one.

“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players. They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts.”…As You Like It, Act 2, Scene 7

William Shakespeare was born April 26, 1564.

He was an exceptional English playwright, poet and actor.

He is widely regarded as the greatest writer in the English language and the world’s pre-eminent dramatist. He is often called England’s national poet.

His works, include collaborations, consisting of some 39 plays, 154 sonnets, three long narrative poems, and a few other verses.

His plays have been translated into every major living language and are performed more often than those of any other playwright. Shakespeare remains arguably the most influential writer in the English language, and his works continue to be studied and reinterpreted.

And lived.

So, if what he says is true, we transition and evolve into many people over time, wouldn’t it be better if we were in control of the narrative of our play? Our life? Our movie?

Let’s face it, in this life, we are never fully in control but the thing we can control is that we can create our own narrative and become closer to the person we desire to become, as we transition to the next.

What are some of the basic behaviors we have control over that define who we are and how we interact with others? The paths that we cross?

Let’s start with family.

As a family member, what part will you play?

Especially as you become an adult.

Will you become the family member that stays in touch? Visits your older relatives? Be there for them when there are challenges or a crisis? Or be too busy to be involved except at holidays, weddings and funerals?

You have complete control over that script.

A film that we loved about the intertwined lives of family, specifically here, sisters, is Hannah and Her Sisters.

Hannah and Her Sisters is a 1986 American comedy-drama film which tells the intertwined stories of an extended family over two years that begins and ends with a family Thanksgiving dinner. The film was written and directed by Woody Allen, who stars along with Mia Farrow as Hannah, Michael Caine as her husband, and Barbara Hershey and Dianne Wiest as her sisters.

Boy, did they all play a part here.

Here is the storyline.

The story is told in three main arcs, with most of it occurring during a 24-month period beginning and ending at Thanksgiving parties, held at The Langham, hosted by Hannah, and her husband, Elliot. Hannah serves as the stalwart hub of the narrative; most of the events of the film connect to her.

Elliot becomes infatuated with one of Hannah’s sisters, Lee, and eventually begins an affair with her. Elliot attributes his behavior to his discontent with his wife’s self-sufficiency and resentment of her emotional strength.

Instead of taking responsibility for his terrible behavior, he blames someone else.

Then there is Lee.

Lee has lived for five years with a reclusive artist, Frederick, who is much older. She finds her relationship with Frederick no longer intellectually or sexually stimulating, in spite of (or maybe because of) Frederick’s professed interest in continuing to teach her. She leaves Frederick after admitting to having an affair with someone else.

Hannah’s ex-husband Mickey, a television writer, is present mostly in scenes outside of the primary story. Flashbacks reveal that his marriage to Hannah fell apart after they were unable to have children because of his infertility.

There are comedic moments but as you can see, people are behaving in ways, good and questionable, that they mostly have control over. Writing their own narrative.

This is a film worth watching.

In your own life’s narrative, are you a person of self-control or do you find reasons (excuses) to behave in ways that harm others at your own pleasure or benefit?

If so, in your life’s play, is that one of the characters you would like to be?

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It truly is up to you.

If you follow us, you probably know that we like to share our personal real life experiences.

One day we were sitting around, having expensive coffee in San Francisco. It is fun to indulge and delude yourself that you are living a far superior life to the one you actually have. Pontificating over delicious coffee and telling tales can help.

One day an associate was relating how, in a conversation with a male relative, to his surprise, he found out that he had a son. The relative related to him that he spent at most, a month’s time with his son, from a one night stand, while he was growing up, and now as an adult, his son barely speaks to him. When asked why his son barely spoke to him, the relative did the following.

He blamed the mother.

He blamed the mother’s father.

They were both against him and said poisonous things about him.

We sense you can see where this is going.

He blamed everyone except himself.

Our associate told him, until he takes responsibility for the wrongs that he did and apologizes for it, his relationship with his son will most likely be stuck in cement.

He had a choice as to what kind of father he could be, the role that he could play and look how he chose to behave and got extremely angry at our associate who told him he was in denial.

After the conversation ended, he explained that he was going to visit his son and his circle but has no intentions of apologizing because, in his mind, he did everything right.

Oh, well. What a part to play.

We could go on.

In terms of friendships.

In terms of relationships.

You have a lot of control over the narrative. The part that you play.

As you transition from one character to the next, some transitions by choice, others not so much, how much will you control the narrative so you play the part of a person you respect and not be in denial.

Simply put, if your life were a movie or a Shakespearean play, will you be the hero or otherwise?

A person of integrity or not so much?