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Okay it’s a date.

Excuse me. Not a date, date. An appointment. This is business. I’ll meet you downtown at our favorite coffee shop. Deal?

You’ve had a similar conversation before. You will meet a friend or associate at a particular destination. It could be 10 to 20 miles away. You both will get there on time but the intriguing aspect to this is how you both get there.

What pathway or route will you travel to your agreed upon destination?

Will it be by car?

Public transportation?

By bike?

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Depending upon what route you choose, each will provide you with a very different and unique experience. Some more desirable than others.

So much of our life experiences are like that.

We have similar destinations like others, for example preparing for retirement. How we get there and what alternate pathways we choose to get there will invariably determine what type of memories and experiences we will have along the way.

If we get there at all.

Which raises a question.

What destination are you striving towards right now, besides retirement?

Always remember there are alternate pathways to getting there. What is the most important criteria to you for choosing?

As an example, if you live here in Northern California, near the San Francisco Bay Area and you want to travel to the Los Angeles area, you can reach it by Highway 99 or 5.

Which one should you choose? It depends.

If you desire to travel through cities along the way for foodie visits or to see Stockton, Modesto, Fresno and Bakersfield for the first time, then you would definitely go 99.

Because you are traveling through cities, it will take you longer to get there.

If you want a faster route that is filled will golden hills, farms and wide open spaces, then Highway 5 is your alternate pathway.

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Part of the point we are making here is that too often in life, when we are young, we are pre-programmed as to what highway in life to take.

Graduate from high school.

Go to a four year university (with a lot of debt).

Graduate and get a job to pay off your loans (often under employed and not enjoyable).

Get married and have children.

Buy a house (often 30 years of debt plus your college loans).

Take out credit cards.

Buy a car (more debt).

Tell us we’re wrong. How many young people are on this pathway? Can’t there be a better way?

Look, we’re not trying to sell you self-help books, tapes, videos or influence to attend a seminar. We are trying to get you to think of traveling down an alternative pathway. Like a few others did.

Let’s meet one such person. Her name is Emma Chamberlain.

Emma Chamberlain (born May 22, 2001) is an American YouTuber.

She won the 2018 Streamy Award for Breakout Creator. In April 2019, she launched a weekly podcast entitled Stupid Genius.

In July 2019, Time Magazine included her on its fifth annual list of The 25 Most Influential People On The Internet, writing that “Chamberlain pioneered an approach to vlogging that shook up YouTube’s unofficial style guide.”

According to our research, at 18 years old she made over 5 million dollars.

What do you think of that alternate pathway? Does her present destination appeal to you?

At Female Competition International, through writing articles for our websites (yes plural), we come across one young woman after another who has de-programmed herself, taken alternate pathways and have reached some exciting and financially lucrative destinations.

Models and entrepreneurs are often in that group.

Especially models.

They often leave home as a teen and travel to the United States, primarily New York and pursue their dreams. Can things go wrong? Sure. But they can also go wrong when you play it safe too and owe the government $100,000 in college debt.

Meet another who is going down an alternate pathway.

Cori “Coco” Gauff (born March 13, 2004) is an American tennis player.

She has won one singles title and two doubles titles on the WTA Tour, and is a former world No. 1 junior. On October 21, 2019, she achieved her highest singles ranking of world No. 69, and her highest doubles ranking of No. 78.

Coco experimented with a variety of sports as a child. She chose to focus on tennis, having been inspired to play by the Williams sisters and because of her preference to compete in an individual sport.

What was the result of her traveling an alternate path?

She had quick success as a junior, winning the Little Mo eight-and-under nationals and earning a sponsorship to train at Patrick Mouratoglou‘s academy in France.

That sounds like a memorable journey. Many models travel to the Unites States to reach their present destination and Coco first traveled to France to pursue hers.

She has won two junior Grand Slam tournament titles, one in singles at the 2018 French Open and one in doubles at the 2018 US Open. She was the runner-up in the girls’ singles event at the 2017 US Open, making her the youngest finalist in the tournament’s history.

Our young risk taker made her WTA Tour debut in March 2019 at the Miami Open and won her opening match. She received a wild card into the qualifying draw at Wimbledon where she became the youngest player to qualify for the main draw in the tournament’s history. She then rose to prominence by defeating Venus Williams in the first round, and ultimately reached the fourth round of the event.

Her remarkable summer continued at the 2019 US Open, where she reached the third round before losing to defending champion Naomi Osaka.

She won her first WTA title at Linz in October 2019, at the age of 15 years old. She won the tournament as a lucky loser, having lost in the final round of qualifying, and defeated three current and former Top 10 players on her way to the title.

According to research she has earned over $543,000.

Our friends at Femcompetitor Magazine wrote about her.

2020 AO First Round, American Coco Gauff Defeats A Legend

If you are young, how do you feel about the pathway that you are on?

Let’s say for example, if your parents have saved up $100,000 for your college education, could an alternate pathway be to take that money and boy a Condo for cash. Probably not in major markets like San Francisco or New York but what about in smaller ones.

No college debt.

No 30 year mortgage. Just don’t refinance. Ever.

Now even a job you love that pays slightly above minimum wage can be a great experience if you have no rent to pay.

As far as employment goes, volunteer in a field that you like, gain some experience and then pursue a job that you are interested in.

Are we saying that everyone should do this?

No, but we also are not saying that everyone should not. All we are saying is think about it. Clearly for many it is not working when we also read about college students who barely can afford to buy food because their cost of living is too high.

It is call Food Insecurity.

Food Insecurity is defined as the state of being without reliable access to a sufficient quantity of affordable, nutritious food.

As reported at, “A particularly high-profile series of studies on the issue has been produced by the Hope Center for College, Community and Justice. The center today released a new report on the issue that estimates 48 percent of community college students and 41 percent of four-year university students who responded to the center’s survey are food insecure.”

There must be a better way.

You are young.

Keep dreaming. Keep asking. Keep thinking about alternative pathways to meet your desired destination.

They are out there.

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